“Can't live with 'em, can't live without 'em”. This common expression relates well to the problematic issue of long distance relationships, because when your relationship is put through this particular test, its time to decide which of these opposing statements applies to you the most. Every year, millions of teenagers leave their significant other behind, while going away to college. Sometimes they travel 30 miles, 100 miles, or sometimes even 1,000 miles. Either way, they are around a new crowd, with new friends, and knowing that their boyfriend or girlfriend is alone back home. Trust and listening are the key factors in making it through a long distance relationship.
Trust is one thing that will be talked about a lot over the next year or two while the lovers are apart. It will be a topic of discussion almost every week, if not every day. I believe if two people are willing to maintain their strong commitment throughout this what seems to be long time period. They are going to have to learn to trust, and accept many situations that they were not forced to accept before. Such as weekends, of course a college student is going to want to go out with his or her friends that weekend, as well as the high school student. However, one may disagree with the other one going out, and that is just how easy an argument appears unexpected out of thin air.
If a person in the relationship gets back from class, and wants to talk about how they had a bad day, the other person really needs to listen, otherwise the person that had the bad day will find someone else to talk to, and may even begin to get close to this person. Therefore, you should always be willing to talk, and listen whenever a problem occurs, even if you’re not a factor in the problem, or are unable to provide a solution to the problem.
Long distance relationships can be best separated into three categories: remaining faithful, dating loosely to see what happens, or breaking off the relationship altogether. Whichever category is chosen depends largely on which stage of the relationship you are at. Most couples remain faithful until about the third or fourth month into long distance relationships. Dating loosely may come after faithfulness, however, usually beginning once the person has moved away. Finally, breaking up can come at any point in the relationship from the moment information is given about the plan to move away, until the very last day the person comes back from home.
Although long-distance relationships are often hard to cope with, many couples endure the struggles and survive their time apart. This distance only makes the people stronger in the end, and even though they hate the entire process, many are thankful for it eventually. Teenagers have to deal with relationships all throughout high school, but college is much different. It is important to pick your partner carefully, and to try in any way possible to protect, care, and love that person, so that you can avoid ever losing them in the future.
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